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\nImposter syndrome is real. It affects men and women across all walks of life and it can have a negative impact on you and your career.<\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Have you ever felt like a fraud? As though you\u2019ve only reached your position by chance and you really shouldn\u2019t be there? You wait for someone to realise it and call you out\u2026 If so, you\u2019re suffering from Imposter Syndrome.<\/p>\n
Studies show an estimated 70% of people experience imposter syndrome<\/a> at some stage of their lives. It affects men and women across all areas of life, and it can have quite a negative impact on you and your career.<\/p>\n
What are the signs of Imposter Syndrome?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Do any of these signs sound familiar?<\/p>\n
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- You are a perfectionist.<\/li>\n
- You are a high achiever.<\/li>\n
- You prefer to do things yourself, so you can hide the struggle.<\/li>\n
- You feel nothing you do is ever good enough.<\/li>\n
- You work longer and harder than you need to \u2013 and longer and harder than anyone else.<\/li>\n
- You overprepare for everything.<\/li>\n
- You need to be Superman\/Superwoman.<\/li>\n
- You don\u2019t believe any praise you\u2019re given.<\/li>\n
- No matter how good your work is, you still think someone will notice it\u2019s not good enough.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
What does it feel like?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
When you suffer from Imposter Syndrome, life is a struggle. It\u2019s uncomfortable, tiring and challenging and you feel like you\u2019re walking on needles the whole time. You try to avoid stepping up to new challenges or stretching yourself in new areas. You don\u2019t want to be noticed in case someone sees your \u2018incompetence\u2019.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re sabotaging yourself by listening to your limiting beliefs, and you probably know that, but it\u2019s a tough cycle to break.<\/p>\n
How to overcome Imposter Syndrome<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Valerie Young, expert on Imposter Syndrome, says \u201cThe only way to stop feeling like an impostor, is to stop thinking like an impostor.\u201d<\/p>\n
There lies the challenge. It takes work to change the way you think, but here are 3 things you can do which will help.<\/p>\n
1. Remind yourself it\u2019s impossible to be perfect<\/strong><\/p>\n
Everyone has good days and bad days, and no-one can be perfect, despite what your Imposter Syndrome (and that voice in your head) tells you. Coming to grips with this realisation is the hardest part of overcoming the syndrome because it targets perfectionists. Try to stop beating yourself up and remember that your 80% good enough is far better than anyone else\u2019s 100%.<\/p>\n
2. Take a close look at your strengths<\/strong><\/p>\n
Imposter Syndrome tends to focus your thoughts on your perceived \u2018weaknesses\u2019 and blow them out of proportion. You forget about your successes and your skills. On a regular basis, think about these positives and write them down. The act of writing them helps embed them in your mind, gradually making them easier to call on when you need to overcome the critical voice in your head.<\/p>\n
3. Remember emotions aren\u2019t facts<\/strong><\/p>\n
Just because you feel like a fraud it doesn\u2019t mean you are. One of the things that most ties us up in knots is accepting our feelings as fact.<\/p>\n
Did you know Seth Godin said that after a dozen best sellers he still feels like a fraud all the time? We know he\u2019s no fraud, and he deserves his success. So, there\u2019s a fact and there\u2019s an emotion. The two are giving different opinions, and that\u2019s what happens inside you. Try to start separating emotion from fact to see what\u2019s really driving your choices.<\/p>\n
You need to remember people need you, just as you are, or they wouldn\u2019t have put you where you are now.\u00a0 Just go with it and start trusting yourself a little more.<\/h3>\n
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It\u2019s normal to feel like an imposter sometimes, but as Valerie Young<\/a>, who says, \u201c[You] can still have an impostor moment, but not an impostor life.\u201d<\/p>\n